Trauma is very complex. In my experience, moving from trauma to healing is much like a crab shedding its shell of protection; painful, vulnerable, exhausting, energizing and oh, it feels so good to integrate into the new!
Do you remember when it was so “uncool” to admit a need. Some well-meaning mouth would correct my verbiage by saying, “You don’t NEED” you “WANT.” Like a want was so much more OK than need.
Well, I’m here to tell you, that’s a lie. We all have needs, wonderful needs, needs to be recognized, to be loved, to be touched, to be heard to be seen. Secret #1: Embrace your needs.
Stay with your truth. The more I stay with my truth, the more stable I am and not de-stabilized by others.